Tuesday, November 17, 2015

The Argument-Free Marriage

Greetings, all.  I just saw this great article, The Argument-Free Marriage.  It links to the above video with Fawn Weaver. 

What she is saying is very similar to what we do with NVC, but in NVC we would say, first connect with your own feelings and needs, then connect with the other person's and only then express your feelings and needs. 

If you connect with the other person's feelings and needs, they are much more likely to be open to yours.  This works in all different kinds of relationships, not just marriages. 

Anyway, this is a great video. Enjoy! 

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Monday, November 09, 2015

African History: Invasion 1897

My blog post, a review of the film Invasion 1897, was published on Africa on the Blog some time ago.  Click here to read it 

You have probably heard of the Benin bronzes - artefacts which were stolen from Africa and added to collections around the world.  Some of the Benin bronzes are on display in the British Museum.   

The Benin bronzes contain the record of a people and its history and culture.  

Invasion 1897 portrays the invasion and colonisation of Benin in West Africa in 1897.  Benin was known for being a very advanced civilisation with its own unique culture.  It is now part of Nigeria.  

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For more about the devastating long-term effects of European colonisation on African countries, see: Black People in the First World War.

Saturday, October 24, 2015

8 Ways To Get POSITIVE Results

Derrick Hayes
 By Encouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes

This blog post is part of the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2015.  

With all the negativity that is surrounding us each day, we need more positive outlets to plug into. Through the word POSITIVE I give you 8 Ways To Get POSITIVE Results.

(P) is for Pause. When you see something that is not right or in your best interests, stop before you proceed. Take a break and collect your thoughts so you can take the right actions. Always remember to pause for the cause.

(O) is for Own. When you own your own business. As an entrepreneur, it gives you more of an incentive to go to work. As an employee, you get taxed without having the benefits of being a sole proprietor where you can receive takes breaks .As a homeowner,  you get takes breaks that you don’t get as a renter.

(S) is for Stay. One way to stay positive is to stay who you are. If you are already positive, remember to stay humble. Stay alert so that you will stay out of trouble.

(I) is for Include. When you plan an activity, invite other positive people to be a part of your event. The group can feed off each other. When one is in doubt another can help them out.

(T) is for Think. Keep grinning and winning by thinking like a winner and not a beginner. When situations come up again, think about how you made it through the last time.

(I) is for Improve. Analyze your life before others do. Take a class or even ask someone how you can get better. Seeing growth is a great way to look forward to a bright future.

(V) is for View. When others look for the worst in others, look for the best things that they bring to the table. See how you can turn negative into positive instead of keeping negative situations negative.

(E) is for Expect. Expect things to be positive in your life. When you hope for the best, things work out better for you. Keep expecting and protecting your dream to come true.

Each day, strive to be POSITIVE where you Pause, Own, Stay, Include, Think, Improve, View and Expect great results.

For more about Derrick, see:  DerrickHayes.com

Friday, October 23, 2015

One Heart, One Cry

By Skywalker Payne

This blog post is part of the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence.

Do not cry out for vengeance or justice.
Neither exist in this world of appearance.

Listen and understand
we are all nothing and everything
we are all one pulsing breathing heart.

Our blood flows like rivers to a
sea of violence we’ve created
with our thoughts, words
and actions strike like
axes destroying ancient trees.

Do not think yours is the only heart broken.
Do not think yours are the only eyes
blinded by tears that cannot stop
watching the life light fade from your child’s body.

No monopoly on grief exists.
No black privilege on pain
or Gazan Syrian or Israeli.

Who wrote a poem for the Nigerian girls
kidnapped and forced to be suicide bombers
for a shadow entity
given free reign by African and Western

I hear the sound of oil rigs and blasting of mines
Africa continues to be raped
and Gazans remain expendable pawns in
the ongoing power struggle between the West and
the Arabs who failed to achieve unity
an English man named Lawrence
fought for 100 years ago.

And here in the USA have we forgotten
the history of the police, always the servants
of the wealthy status quo?

Remember, police beat the heads of white
union organizers and imprison white people
seeking equality, justice, and peace.
Even theatre was called Communist when
ignorant elected “public servants” so decreed.

Police violence is inflicted with
hateful malice on black, brown,
red, and yellow people.

Know your history to create a new path.
We have an obligation to transform the world.
Time to create new stories.

We must unite with everyone’s
heart broken by grief from violence.

Our hearts are huge enough to forgive and to comfort.

Our minds vast potential holds solutions
to end bigotry, hatred, envy, greed,
pride, and ignorance.

This is a 21st century non-violent battle cry.

Let it begin now with our light
of courageous, caring consciousness.
Copyright © 2015 Skywalker Payne 
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For more poetry by Skywalker, see: http://skywalkerstorytellerworks.com 

For more about her work, see:  http://skywalkerpayne.com

Thursday, October 22, 2015

8 Books about NVC

As you may know, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is one of the methods I feature in my book Success Strategies for Black People.

For more about Success Strategies, check out my Black Success audios.

See also:  War on the Black Community?

Click here for more books about NVC.  Many of these are featured in the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence.

If you have not read these, you need to add them to your reading list.  Learn how you can connect with your own feelings and needs - and those of others - to bring about positive change. 


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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Black Lives Matter - Is There an Age Gap?

Rev. Barbara Reynolds
I had the pleasure of speaking with veteran Civil Rights activist Rev. Barbara Reynolds, and Latara Jones of Black Women for Positive Change.  Listen below.

This blog is part of the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2015.  

As I am sure you know, the Black Lives Matter Movement was born as a response to the deaths of Trayvon Martin, Michael Brown, Eric Garner and other Black people for whose deaths no one has been convicted. Some older African Americans, such as Rev. Barbara Reynolds, question their methods.  Latara Jones talks about the need for us to communicate across generations, and respect each other's experience and wisdom.

How can older and younger activists work together?  How can we take responsibiity for the violence in our homes and families?  Listen below.

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Monday, August 31, 2015

Conversation with Karen Carrington and Reverend Sauls

Pastor Kelvin Sauls
Listen below for my conversation with Karen Carrington and Rev. Sauls. 

Can nonviolence offer us real solutions?  

I recently spoke with Karen Carrington of Black Women for Positive Change, and Rev. Kelvin Sauls, Pastor of Holman United Methodist Church, Los Angeles, CA about the Week for Nonviolence 2015.  You can hear our conversation below. 

Rev. Sauls is originally from South Africa, where he experienced life under apartheid.  

The Week for Nonviolence 2015 will be held October 17th-23rd.  Please join us to help  change the culture of violence worldwide.  

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