Thursday, December 24, 2015

Kwanzaa 2015 Celebrations

It's that tme of year again!  I am listing Kwanzaa celebrations on my site.  These include Kwanzaa events across the United States and in Canada, Britain and Johannesburg, South Africa. 

I also have background information on the origins and meaning of Kwanzaa.  Enjoy! 

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Happy Kwanzaa! 


Tuesday, December 08, 2015

The Real “Ferguson Effect”

Laquan McDonald
As we know, institutional racism is still a problem in many police forces across Britain and the U.S.A.  

Many young Black people believe they will die before they reach the age of 21.  

We need to equip our young people - and adults - with the skills to be able to transform violent situations.  NVC (Nonviolent Communication) is transformative.  We need to be focusing on solutions.  

For more about NVC, click here for my interview with Ike Lasater, author of From Conflict to Connection.  

And this article about NVC


Plus click here for books about NVC.  

Check out the original article: This is the real “Ferguson effect”: Black death, white “safety” & the growing hopelessness among young people of color.  

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

The Argument-Free Marriage


Greetings, all.  I just saw this great article, The Argument-Free Marriage.  It links to the above video with Fawn Weaver. 

What she is saying is very similar to what we do with NVC, but in NVC we would say, first connect with your own feelings and needs, then connect with the other person's and only then express your feelings and needs. 

If you connect with the other person's feelings and needs, they are much more likely to be open to yours.  This works in all different kinds of relationships, not just marriages. 

Anyway, this is a great video. Enjoy! 

Please share this with your networks and please leave a comment below.

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Monday, November 09, 2015

African History: Invasion 1897


My blog post, a review of the film Invasion 1897, was published on Africa on the Blog some time ago.  Click here to read it 

You have probably heard of the Benin bronzes - artefacts which were stolen from Africa and added to collections around the world.  Some of the Benin bronzes are on display in the British Museum.   

The Benin bronzes contain the record of a people and its history and culture.  

Invasion 1897 portrays the invasion and colonisation of Benin in West Africa in 1897.  Benin was known for being a very advanced civilisation with its own unique culture.  It is now part of Nigeria.  

Click here to read my blog post.  Please leave a comment on my blog, and please share this with your networks.  Thanks.  

For more about the devastating long-term effects of European colonisation on African countries, see: Black People in the First World War.


Saturday, October 24, 2015

8 Ways To Get POSITIVE Results

Derrick Hayes
 By Encouragement Speaker Derrick Hayes

This blog post is part of the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2015.  

With all the negativity that is surrounding us each day, we need more positive outlets to plug into. Through the word POSITIVE I give you 8 Ways To Get POSITIVE Results.

(P) is for Pause. When you see something that is not right or in your best interests, stop before you proceed. Take a break and collect your thoughts so you can take the right actions. Always remember to pause for the cause.

(O) is for Own. When you own your own business. As an entrepreneur, it gives you more of an incentive to go to work. As an employee, you get taxed without having the benefits of being a sole proprietor where you can receive takes breaks .As a homeowner,  you get takes breaks that you don’t get as a renter.

(S) is for Stay. One way to stay positive is to stay who you are. If you are already positive, remember to stay humble. Stay alert so that you will stay out of trouble.

(I) is for Include. When you plan an activity, invite other positive people to be a part of your event. The group can feed off each other. When one is in doubt another can help them out.

(T) is for Think. Keep grinning and winning by thinking like a winner and not a beginner. When situations come up again, think about how you made it through the last time.

(I) is for Improve. Analyze your life before others do. Take a class or even ask someone how you can get better. Seeing growth is a great way to look forward to a bright future.

(V) is for View. When others look for the worst in others, look for the best things that they bring to the table. See how you can turn negative into positive instead of keeping negative situations negative.

(E) is for Expect. Expect things to be positive in your life. When you hope for the best, things work out better for you. Keep expecting and protecting your dream to come true.

Each day, strive to be POSITIVE where you Pause, Own, Stay, Include, Think, Improve, View and Expect great results.

For more about Derrick, see:  DerrickHayes.com


Friday, October 23, 2015

One Heart, One Cry

By Skywalker Payne

This blog post is part of the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence.

Do not cry out for vengeance or justice.
Neither exist in this world of appearance.

Listen and understand
we are all nothing and everything
we are all one pulsing breathing heart.

Our blood flows like rivers to a
sea of violence we’ve created
with our thoughts, words
and actions strike like
axes destroying ancient trees.

Do not think yours is the only heart broken.
Do not think yours are the only eyes
blinded by tears that cannot stop
watching the life light fade from your child’s body.

No monopoly on grief exists.
No black privilege on pain
or Gazan Syrian or Israeli.

Who wrote a poem for the Nigerian girls
kidnapped and forced to be suicide bombers
for a shadow entity
given free reign by African and Western
governments.

I hear the sound of oil rigs and blasting of mines
Africa continues to be raped
and Gazans remain expendable pawns in
the ongoing power struggle between the West and
the Arabs who failed to achieve unity
an English man named Lawrence
fought for 100 years ago.

And here in the USA have we forgotten
the history of the police, always the servants
of the wealthy status quo?

Remember, police beat the heads of white
union organizers and imprison white people
seeking equality, justice, and peace.
Even theatre was called Communist when
ignorant elected “public servants” so decreed.

Police violence is inflicted with
hateful malice on black, brown,
red, and yellow people.

Know your history to create a new path.
We have an obligation to transform the world.
Time to create new stories.

We must unite with everyone’s
heart broken by grief from violence.

Our hearts are huge enough to forgive and to comfort.

Our minds vast potential holds solutions
to end bigotry, hatred, envy, greed,
pride, and ignorance.

This is a 21st century non-violent battle cry.

Let it begin now with our light
of courageous, caring consciousness.
 
Copyright © 2015 Skywalker Payne 
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For more poetry by Skywalker, see: http://skywalkerstorytellerworks.com 

For more about her work, see:  http://skywalkerpayne.com

Thursday, October 22, 2015

8 Books about NVC

As you may know, Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is one of the methods I feature in my book Success Strategies for Black People.

For more about Success Strategies, check out my Black Success audios.

See also:  War on the Black Community?

Click here for more books about NVC.  Many of these are featured in the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence.

If you have not read these, you need to add them to your reading list.  Learn how you can connect with your own feelings and needs - and those of others - to bring about positive change. 

Enjoy!

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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Black Lives Matter - Is There an Age Gap?

Rev. Barbara Reynolds
I had the pleasure of speaking with veteran Civil Rights activist Rev. Barbara Reynolds, and Latara Jones of Black Women for Positive Change.  Listen below.

This blog is part of the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2015.  

As I am sure you know, the Black Lives Matter Movement was born as a response to the deaths of Trayvon Martin, Michael Brown, Eric Garner and other Black people for whose deaths no one has been convicted. Some older African Americans, such as Rev. Barbara Reynolds, question their methods.  Latara Jones talks about the need for us to communicate across generations, and respect each other's experience and wisdom.

How can older and younger activists work together?  How can we take responsibiity for the violence in our homes and families?  Listen below.

Please share this with your networks, and please leave your comments below. 



Click here for practical ways to move from conflict to connection.

Click here for more blogs from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence.




Monday, August 31, 2015

Conversation with Karen Carrington and Reverend Sauls

Pastor Kelvin Sauls
Listen below for my conversation with Karen Carrington and Rev. Sauls. 

Can nonviolence offer us real solutions?  

I recently spoke with Karen Carrington of Black Women for Positive Change, and Rev. Kelvin Sauls, Pastor of Holman United Methodist Church, Los Angeles, CA about the Week for Nonviolence 2015.  You can hear our conversation below. 

Rev. Sauls is originally from South Africa, where he experienced life under apartheid.  

The Week for Nonviolence 2015 will be held October 17th-23rd.  Please join us to help  change the culture of violence worldwide.  

Click here for the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence

Monday, August 17, 2015

War on the Black Community?

Militarised Police - Does This Reassure You? 
Listen below to this blog post.  Please also check out the links below.

I believe the Black community, and Black communities around the world, are under attack and have been for many years. That is my opinion. And I want to know what you think. So please add your comments below after you have listened to this post. 

When our Black communities are thriving and prospering, every community will thrive and prosper.  Everyone will benefit.  Listen below for more.  Please leave your comments below and please share this with your networks. 

We need to use PRACTICAL solutions to bring about positive change and transformation.  


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The Sowetan – Jumping the Border for Water

The Sowetan - Jumping the Border for Water
The Sowetan newspaper reports Botswanan women routinely jump the border with South Africa in order to collect water for their families.  You may be able to access it here at The Sowetan e-edition: http://www.pressdisplay.com/pressdisplay/viewer.aspx

This is an artificial border first erected in 1933, which divided a community called Mabule in Botswana .  Now half of Mabule is in South Africa, but the other half is still in Botswana. And they need water. They cross the barbed wire border every day to get it. 

I don't remember hearing about this in The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency.   

As you may know, during the European colonisation of Africa, many artificial borders were set up and they often divided communities. There are people in Mabule in Botswana who are now living in a different country from their relatives – all because of an artificial border.

Similar things have happened all over Africa. And this is still affecting people to this day.

Think about the devastation that is being wrought by Boko Haram in Northern Nigeria and reflect on how much of this can be traced to the fact that areas which are now banded together nationally as Nigeria were once separate territories, with their own poitical and economic systems. These existing systems were either eroded or destroyed in order to facilitiate the agendas of the European colonisers. For more about this, check out my blog post:  Invasion 1897.  

For more about the devastating long-term effects of the European colonisation of Africa, see: Black People in the First World War

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Monday, July 27, 2015

Global Networking for Black Business Owners

This is a re-purposing of this blog post. 

Click here to download More Black Success Volume 10, which includes interviews and articles by Black entrepreneurs and business experts on both sides of the pond including Melinda Emerson, Twitter's SmallBizLady.  .  

I am an African American woman based in London, and I meet people from all over the world. Many of us are facing similar difficulties and challenges. We have a shared history as African people and we have a great deal we can learn from each other.  

In my More Black Success free ebooks and the What U Need to Know radio show which I used to  co-present, our emphasis is on networking internationally as people of African heritage. 

Click here for some of my Black Success audios, to help you build your business. 

Historically, Black people have been taught to hate and mistrust each other as a way of controlling us. We need to overcome these barriers. We are all African people.

We are much stronger and more effective when we work together, for our common interests as African people.  


Click here for a great way to grow your business globally.

Click here to listen to a short audio recap on African Networking.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Harriet: A Choreopoem

I have managed to upload the short film taken from my choreopoem, "Harriet", which depicts an imaginary meeting between Harriet Jacobs and Harriet Tubman.  You can watch it above. 

Plus "Harriet" is now available from the British Library.  This is the audio recording of the full-length choreopoem; above is a video directed by Keely Augustus, based on a short clip. 

Plus check out Soul Survivors:  Slave Narratives by Women.  

Please leave your comments below, and please share this with your networks.  Thanks.  

Monday, July 20, 2015

Cancer Journals Part 2

Gratitude - Cancer Journals
In case you missed them, here are my most recent Cancer Journals.  And just to be clear, my healing meditation is on its way.  See below for the previous Cancer Journals. 

Cancer Journal 6:  What Are Angels? - I've been doing a lot of work with angels and I am finding this highly beneficial - even though I'm not sure what angels even are. 

Cancer Journal 7:  EFT for Releasing Fear - In addition to anger, I've been experiencing a lot of fear.  Enormous, overwhelming fear.  I am sure this is natural under the circumstances. And I have effective ways of dealing with it.  

Cancer Journal 8:  A Healing Process - I am an Angry Black Woman.  What effect does this have on my health? 

Cancer Journal 9:  Managing the Pain - Or Not - I had a complete hysterectomy at the end of May.  I just could not believe the amount of pain I was in afterwards. 

Cancer Journal 10:  Gratitude, Our Healing - Gratitude can be an incredibly strong experience. 

Click here for more Cancer Journals.  


 




 

 


590 Black Deaths in Police Custody

Marcia Rigg Protest about the Death of Sean Rigg, London
Check out my previous blog posts:  Protecting Our Communities


According to this article, 590 Black people in the UK have died in police custody.

This article fails to mention that some of the 500 people killed by the police, with impunity, were women. Some were disabled. Some were probably both. 
Call their names:  Cynthia Jarrett, Joy Gardner.   

Also, Cherry Groce was confined to a wheelchair for the rest of her life after being shot by the police in London.

This post appears to be pitting disadvantaged groups against each other. We need to stand together. I am Black, a woman and disabled. I have a problem with the way this site has posed the question, “If it was 590 women or 590 wheelchair users, would there be a national outcry?”.

All deaths in police custody need to be highlighted, awareness needs to be raised, but racism is something that affects Black people in every area of our lives, whether or not we are women or disabled. We need to keep highlighting this. 

These are just some of the many reasons why I am hosting the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2015.   

Plus check out this blog from Naturally Moi:  The Woman Who Filmed the Eric Garner Killing Is Suing the NYPD.   

Please leave your comments below.  And please share this with your networks.  Thanks. 

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Protecting Our Communities

Injustice Film on Deaths in Police Custody
Click here for a review of What They Don't Want Us to Know.
Listen below to my blog on Protecting Our Communities. 
One of the challenges we are facing at present is the killing of Black people by the police and the authorities.
This is just one of the reasons why I wrote What They Don't Want Us to Know along with some of my other books. We need to find effective methods to address these problems. 
See also:  We Need Solutions that Work.  


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Check out The Root on deaths in police custody: Ronald Singleton

Monday, July 13, 2015

Your Silence Will Not Protect You

Alice Walker
This lady said it:  "No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow".  

And remember what Audre Lorde said:  "Your silence will not protect you.  My silence will not protect me".  

Our stories have been buried, distorted and misrepresented for too long.  We need to know our history and we need to share it.  It's time to tell the truth. 

If you haven't done so yet, click here to download Why We Need to Heal now.  Make sure your share this with your networks.  And please leave your comments below.  




Monday, June 29, 2015

First Day of Wimbledon

Serena Williams, Wimbledon Champion
On the first day of Wimbledon fortnight, I am collecting images of Venus and Serena Williams here.

Let's celebrate these two amazing, powerful, strong and beautiful sistas who have broken so many boundaries and will ALWAYS be champions! 

Monday, June 22, 2015

New Review of What They Don't Want Us to Know.

What They Don't Want Us to Know
I have just received a new review of my ebook, What They Don't Want Us to Know.  You can read it below. 

I wrote What They Don't Want Us to Know several years ago and I recently updated it.  There is an urgency to this work, as more and more Black people are being killed by the police and the authorities (and, it seems, any random white person).  Plus there are many other ongoing issues which affect our communities.  For more about this, click here to download Why We Need to Heal, which is a free download.  Our communities need practical, effective solutions. 

Plus click here for your free sample chapter on Achieving Success.  

Here's the review: 

There are those in life that have a special calling, a calling that beckons us to seek out ways to enrich and improve their lives so that they may do the same for others. People such as this, with this burning desire in life, often find themselves in roles such as mentors, gurus, teachers, educators, and even parents. I myself am a parent and I have learned (be it the hard way) that in order for me to be able to be the best mother, the best sister, the best friend, the best daughter, and the best me I could be will require that I work towards improving myself in every aspect of my being.

We all want to have it all, but why does it seem so elusive and hard to obtain? Maybe it is because our whole lives, we have been living under the illusion that the key to our happiness lies in some external source, when in all actuality genuine, undying happiness sprouts forth from within.

What They Don’tWant Us to Know is a book that addresses those components of the lives of Black people - people of African heritage - that are most important in pursuing the best you. The chapters on Gratitude, Mindfulness, and Manifestation are only a few of the many nuggets of wisdom lent in this book that you can implement into your journey toward self-discovery. Learning how to release negative blockages, limiting beliefs, and fears were lessons I found to be highly beneficial to my overall wellbeing.

All of the information granted in this well-written, comprehensive guide will lead Black readers down a path towards lasting joy, peace, abundance, and prosperity in ways that are easy to implement into the busiest of lifestyles. I enjoyed the thoroughness of Zhana’s writing and the way she conveys a message of this complexity and proportion in an engaging and entertaining manner. Excellent read and I highly recommend this book to people of African heritage who strive to make positive change today for a better future tomorrow - for ourselves, for our families, for our communities and for humanity!


Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Cancer Journals

The Cancer Journals
I was recently diagnosed with cancer and I am posting a series of blogs which I am calling "Cancer Journals", named after Audre Lorde's classic The Cancer Journals.  I'm doing this in order to process my experiences and my emotions, and I trust that it will be beneficial for you to read about my journey. 

Please leave your comments on my blog posts.  Thanks.  I have listed the first few blog posts below.  


You may also be interested in this one:  Why Are So Many of Our People Dying?

Cancer Journals

Cancer Journals

Cancer Journal 2: My Diagnosis

Cancer Journal 3:  Shopping for Green Candles.  Green is the colour of compassion, the colour of the heart, and the colour of health, growth and renewal. 

Cancer Journal 4:  Brain Freeze.  What happens when you receive a cancer diagnosis? 

Cancer Journal 5:  An Angry Life.  Black women have plenty to be angry about,  But what are some of the health consequences of carrying a lot of anger? 








Wednesday, May 06, 2015

Legendary Icon Anastacia

Brazilian icon Anastacia Escrava
Anastacia, known as "Anastacia Escrava", is a legendary historical figure revered in Brazil.  Having reputedly refused the advances of a white slavemaster, Anastacia was forced to wear an iron mask continuously. 

Check out this great blog post for more information. 

Just one more reason Why We Need to Heal


Monday, April 27, 2015

Malcolm X and Marcus Garvey on the Importance of History

Marcus Garvey
To quote Marcus Garvey on history, "A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots".

To quote Malcolm X, History is a people's memory, and without a memory, man is demoted to the lower animals.

We have been fed many lies and distortions about our history in order to make us forget who we are.  Our history has been marginalised, ignored and buried.  It us up to us to dig it up, uncover it and share it. 

Check out some of my recent Black history/African history blogs:


To find out about how Martin Luther Kind and Malcolm X influenced sci-fi movies, check out The Black History of the X-Men


African History Film:  Invasion 1897 - this links to some of my other African history blogs. 

Please share these with your networks.  And if you like my blog posts, please leave a comment.  Thanks. 

Thursday, April 23, 2015

The Black History of X-Men

Wesley Snipes as Blade
As I have said many times before, I always learn something in presentations by Brother T. of London Black History Walks.  Listen below for more.  

How has Black history influenced science fiction and sci-fi movies?  Listen below. 


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Three points particularly stood out for me in this presentation.  

1) Dr. Wooter Basson - Brother T. has mentioned him in other presentations.
2) In 1999, the family of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. held a civil trial.  Did you hear about this?  I didn’t.  The mainstream media buried the story.

3) Blade was the first Marvel superhero featured in successful moviesListen below for more. 






Monday, February 23, 2015

Why Conflicts Don't Get Resolved

Why Conflicts Don't Get Resolved
For more about NVC, check out my blog post:  How to Transform Your Relationships.  

I've been having a problem with this guy. This has made me so upset and so angry, although I have calmed down somewhat, thank goodness.

I am a very private person and it's important to me to maintain clear boundaries. When I think someone is trying to force himself or herself on me, I get very defensive. My barriers go up and they are not coming down! I know this because I know what I am like, and how I tend to react to this kind of situation.

I'm going to break this down. We have an NVC (Nonviolent Communication) group at the London Buddhist Centre and this guy came along. The group is for Buddhists, but we decided to open it up to include people who have done a Buddhism course. This could be anybody who has done a Buddhism course, they don't have to be Buddhists. 

This guy came along – let's call him Fred (not his real name).  I asked him if he is a Buddhist and he said he had done a vipassana meditation retreat.  So I told him we would like him to do a Buddhism course and he said, cool, he was interested in learning about Buddhism. 

A couple of weeks later, we updated the mailing list and, prior to doing a mailing, I asked Fred if he had signed up for a Buddhism course.  It transpired he hadn't.  So I said, you will be welcome once you complete a Buddhism course.

Then he started saying we were “excluding people”.  Remember, it has been clearly stated that this group is for Buddhists, and we meet at the London Buddhist Centre.

Later on, after a series of emails, Fred started saying he had done a Buddhism course. He never mentioned this before.  He also said he had done the vipassana retreat three times.

Apparently, he is now saying he did it six times.  I have stopped reading his emails and told him not to write to me again.   Of course, he continued to send me emails.  As I said, my barriers are up and they are not coming down.

The thing that pisses me off the most is that he keeps saying things like “I'm confused”, “I'm baffled”, and there's nothing confusing or baffling going on here.   My communication has been very clear.

Someone trying to argue and pressure his way into the group simply does not cut it with me.

To break this down, in NVC, we would not say something like “You are excluding people”. This is an interpretation.  We would say something along the lines of, “I am upset because I think you are excluding me”.

Also, I could say that he is lying, but this is an interpretation.   It could also be called “jackal speech”, i.e., speech that disconnects us from each other, such as blaming and labelling.  So I prefer to say, “He keeps changing his story”.

In NVC, we try to be as factual as possible.  Instead of saying, “Such-and-such happened”, we say, “I remember such-and-such happening”.  The truth is that people remember things differently.   I can only be responsible for what I remember. 
 
Similarly, for me to say he is “ trying to argue and pressure his way into the group” is an interpretation, not an observation.

One of the most important lessons to be learned from this is that if we want someone to respect our feelings and needs, we first need to connect with theirs – genuinely and from the heart.  If Fred had connected with my feelings and needs, I would probably have been a lot more willing to listen to his.  Instead, I just want to have nothing to do with him now. This is how conflicts go unresolved.

It takes a lot of practice to learn NVC and I am not always able to use or apply the level of skill I would like to.

As I said, I am calming down about the whole thing now.   Even if I don't receive empathy from Fred or from others, I can still give empathy to myself.   This can be a very rewarding experience.

For more about NVC, check out my blog post:  How to Transform Your Relationships.  

I welcome your comments below.

Saturday, January 17, 2015

MLK's "Lost" Newcastle Speech

MLK at Newcastle University
In 1967, Martin Luther King visited Newcastle University in the North East of England, where he gave a speech about his work in the Civil Rights Movement, fighting for justice. 

He was awarded an honorary Doctorate in Civil Law by the university. 

Recently, a rare film of the speech was discovered in the university's archives and was broadcast by the BBC.  Click here to view the footage and read the text of his speech.  Click here for some of the reactions of African Americans who recently heard this speech for the first time. 

See also:  MLK:  Black Is Beautiful

MLK: Black Is Beautiful

"Don't let anybody take your mind".  This is what Martin Luther Kind reminds us.  We have been taught that everything Black is negative.  

In Why We Need to Identify as Black, I argued that black is the most powerful colour in existence.

Martin Luther King said it and it still is true - Black is beautiful.   
See also: Why We Need to Identify as Black.

Please leave your comments below.  

Thursday, January 08, 2015

Je Suis Charlie

Parliamentary members and staff Je Suis Charlie
I am in floods of tears as I am reading about the Charlie Hebdo shootings.  After all these millennia, can human beings still not find any other way to resolve difficulties apart from shooting each other and blowing each other up? 

Actually, we have.  Those of us who are committed to nonviolence appear to be in the minority, but that has to change or else the whole species is at risk of extinction.  I mean this very seriously. 

Nonviolent Communication gives us skills to relate to, and interact with, each other in a way that addresses everybody's needs.  We can connect and communicate from the heart, and from our commitment to life, to life force energy. 

I am leading an NVC session on Monday.  I hope you will join us.  Click here for more details

I have blogged a lot about NVC on this blog and this one, so please search for more info.

Peace be with you.




Wednesday, January 07, 2015

Chris Rock Divorce



I'm deeply saddened to hear that Chris Rock has filed for divorce from his wife of 19 years.  I'm sure you are, too.

What makes a relationship work?  

Hollywood may have taken its toll on the marriage.  Chris Rock compared marriage to shooting himself in the head.  He also said that he had to bury his own personality once he got married.

A relationship, or any communication, works when both sides hear and respect each other's feelings and needs.  NVC gives us the skills to do this. 

Marshall Rosenberg, author of Nonviolent Communication, has referred to NVC as "making life more wonderful". 

Whether you are single, in a couple, married, a parent - whatever your situation - you can use Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to transform your relationships.  I will be leading a session in London on the 12th of January.  Click here for more info. I hope you will join us. 

Wishing you a wonderful 2015! 

Tuesday, January 06, 2015

How to Transform Your Relationships

It's such a shame to hear that Chris Rock has filed for divorce.  It seems to have been have been a long time coming. 

If you have read Success Strategies or my articles, blogs and ebooks, you know I am passionate about Nonviolent Communication.  We can transform our relationships and our communication using NVC.

Whether you are single, in a couple, a parent, an employee, an employer, or a business owner, you can use NVC to make your life more wonderful.  

I am delighted and privileged to be leading a session of the NVC Meetup group in London on Monday the 12th of January.  Click here for details.  I hope you can join us. 

For more about how to use NVC to transform your relationships, click here for my ebook What They Don't Want Us to KnowClick here for Affirmations for Parents.