By individuality, I mean valuing oneself and others and respecting one’s own ideals and values. For more about this, see The Key to Confidence.
Individuality is not the same as being individualistic or selfish. Nor does it mean doing something because “Black people do it”. In order to be individuals, we need to honour our uniqueness.
The more we behave as individuals, and treat others as individuals, the more we can become free of the group mentality which lies at the hear tof the blame culture.
Instead of blaming, we need to take responsibility.
Passivity vs. Blame
At the opposite end of the spectrum from blaming is passivity. The “let God take care of it” attitude that many of us from a religious background tend to have.
I think this is a cultural difference between Black and white people. People from European backgrounds tend to be confident about self-power, but they tend to fear other power. We, on the other hand, tend to be overly reliant on other power, and lack confidence in our self-power.
We need both. We need a balance between self-power and other-power.
Although I have said that they are opposites, passivity and blame often go together. This is because we feel frustrated by our own passivity and then project it onto others.
I saw a post on an online forum recently where someone who had worked in a care home was writing about the corruption she had witnessed on a daily basis. She had seen residents of the home being abused. She wrote, “I was going to challenge it, but then I decided to leave it to God”.
People, we cannot afford to “leave it to God”.
When I was a Christian and believed in a god, I also believed that “God helps those who help themselves”.
To put it another way, everything we do is matched with energy from the universe. The universe matches and multiplies whatever energy we put out.
We can only do this if we focus on our own power – not other people’s. For more about this, read Allowing Success.
Imagine you have unlimited power to attain anything you want, and fulfill your dreams.
You do have this power, you were born with it . Reach down inside yourself to draw on this power. You are unstoppable.
For more about this, see The Higher Self.
As I said in Success Strategies for Black People, never say "I can't". Say "How can I?".