Emotional Intelligence: Using the Laws of Attraction | D. Ivan Young | T...

The Law of Attraction is the principle of "like attracts like".  To attract what we want, we need to be vibrating at the same level of energy as that which we want to attract into our lives.  

The LOA is working all the time.  It can work for us or against us.  

Our level of vibration is determined by our emotions.  To raise our vibration, we need to change our emotional state.   So emotional intelligence is key to using the Law of Attraction to our benefit. 

That which is seen comes out of that which is not seen.  Everything starts as a thought, an idea.  So we can attract what we want, even if we don't see it yet.  

For more about the Law of Attraction, go here to download the new version of my FREE ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  

See also:  Steve Harvey Talks about The Law Of Attraction...IT WORKS!

See also: The Power of Visualization with Ashanti Johnson.   

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Steve Harvey Talks about The Law Of Attraction...IT WORKS!

Steve Harvey talks here about the Law of Attraction (LOA).  The LOA is
working all the time.  It can work for us or against us.  

The way to raise our vibration is to change our emotional state.  This is
the power of laughter which he talks about in this video.  Laughter is a
very powerful and effective way to change our emotional state.  

For more about the Law of Attraction, go here to download the new version of my FREE ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  

See also: The Power of Visualization with Ashanti Johnson.   

Let's make this Your Best Year Yet! 

The Power Of Visualization | Ashanti Johnson

Check out this TED Talk from Ashanti Johnson on The Power of Visualization.  

We can do anything we want.  The human mind (i.e. YOUR mind) is incredibly powerful.  

For more about visualization, go here to download the new version of my FREE ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  

And go here for my article, Guided Visualization:  Your Key to Power.  

Let's make this Your Best Year Yet!  

Black Success: How to Get the Results You Want

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How much do you really want it? Do you really want to bring about positive change in your life? If so, contact me for a free consultation with no obligation.  

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Limitless Creation, Limitless Power

One thing I talk about in my book Success Strategies for Black People, and one thing I have taught my students, is the Law of Increase. Whatever we focus on, concentrate on, increases. We can focus on the problem or the solution.  Whatever we give our energy to, we experience more of.  

In ancient times, only the privileged had access to the Law of Increase.  That was how they maintained their their power and privilege and that was how they increased it.   But we live in the information age now, and we have access to, and can use, these universal laws.  

What we give out, we get back.  Whatever energies we put out, be they negative or positive, the universe gives us back. 

Many people have an attitude of “leave it to god”. It's been called "learned helplessness". Given our experience over the last 500 years, it's understandable that people feel that way. But it's time to break out of that mentality now.  It's time to recognize our true power and our true worth. 

We have enormous power, but we don't use the power we have.  In fact, we have forgotten the power we have.  

SRT is just one way to enjoy our power.  For more information, check out Black Success:  How to Get Clear, Precise Answers.  

You’re Fired! Company Terminated Employee Who Called Cops On Black Man at Swimming Pool

white woman at swimming pool

Some of us may be glad this happened.  At least, some kind of justice has been done.  A white woman was fired from her job after she phoned the police when a Black man wore socks at a swimming pool.  But it really should not have come to this. 

This is just the latest of similar stories about places such as Starbucks and Denny's. 

We are not allowed to hold meetings at Starbucks.  Nor can we stop at a gas station to buy drinks for children after a nonviolence demonstration.  Not without some white employee calling the cops on us.  But at least we can wear our socks in the pool. 

It should never come to this.  We MUST Learn to treat each other with respect. 

Niecy Nash received some very interesting responses to the spoof telephone helpline she created for racists. 

See also:  White Woman Calls Cops 911.  

And then there's the Ryanair incident.  (Warning:  this contains offensive language.)  Yep, we definitely gotta avoid flying anywhere with Ryanair. 

And remember the nail shop incident? 

This nonsense really has to stop. 

Go here for more from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2018. 

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Interview with the Archbishop of York

John Sentamu, the Archbishop of York

The Rt. Rev. John Sentamu, Archbishop of York, is the first Black Church of England Archbishop to be ordained within the United Kingdom.  

Here, he talks about the importance of nonviolence for him as a Christian.

Z:  How are you personally affected by the violence in the world today?   

JS:  Saddened (and angry!) because:

• Violence seems so often to be a knee-jerk reaction to either fear of personal threat or manipulation by vested interests combined with social media.
• Targeted violence designed for maximum collateral damage hitting bystanders to the arguments, often those who have least resilience
• Even more collateral damage to society in general – disruption of governance, daily life, resources with an undermining of trust, truth and community.  
    

Please can you give me one or two examples of how you practise nonviolence in your own life?

Jesus said, “blessed are the peacemakers”. Making peace means action, not passivity. With that in mind, I try to give young people a goal to aim for: that is God’s Kingdom. You can find some of the components in Matthew’s Gospel, Chapters 5 – 7. But we humans need more than good advice and good examples, so I also share with them the good news about Jesus Christ himself, who is the Prince of Peace. He gets to work within us, putting right what is wrong and through the Holy Spirit giving us dness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Surely this is how we all want to live?  

Many parents are struggling with issues around violence today. Young people are shooting and stabbing each other – I am sure you are aware of the fact that violence is increasing, both in London and across Britain. What practical advice or suggestions can you offer to parents about how to protect their children from violence, and how to prevent violence? 

• encourage them to have a circle of trusted friends who are not all like them
• be interested in their interests, feelings, hopes and don’t work so hard there’s no time for children
• relax together. Don’t put children under so much pressure – positive support is better than negative sanctions
• surround them with adults, other than family, who will be protective of them, who they can learn to trust and go to when they get to the “asserting independence” phase of their lives (role of godparents!)
• watch age-appropriate news and other programmes with them
• encourage them to read stories – a wonderful way of learning about the world, universe and everything else (especially themselves) and to see things in perspective.
• there are some excellent books for children and young people about difficult topics, eg the children’s version of I Am Malala with lovely illustrations, and Michael Morpurgo’s books.

Please add any further remarks you would like to make.

Because of my Christian faith, for me, it is a privilege to belong to a church family that breaks down barriers between people of different places, cultures, backgrounds. I want young people to be able to celebrate diversity whilst also knowing we all belong together - different, but one family, sisters and brothers together.

+Sentamu Ebor 

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White Woman Calls Cops 911

Shopping While Black News:  A white woman has called the police on 911 when a group of Black/African American anti-violence protesters stopped to buy drinks at a gas station.

In yet another instance of racist stupidity, the white woman, identified as "Brenda", called the cops when a group of anti-violence protesters, many of them children, ended their demonstration outside a gas (petrol) station in North Charleston, South Carolina.  The demonstrators planned to buy drinks for the children there.  Let's hope they did not spend any money at the gas station. 

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As far as I am aware, the demonstrators were not arrested, as were several people in two different Starbucks several months ago.

Shopping while Black is becoming increasingly interesting.

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Black History: New Revelations about Emmett Till

Okay, it's not exactly a revelation, but the white woman whose accusation sparked the brutal murder of Emmett Till in 1955 has now, AT LAST, admitted that she lied.

The 14-year-old whistled at a white woman - that much has been made clear by his cousins, who were present at the time of the incident.

But he DID NOT touch her inappropriately.  This white woman has FINALLY admitted that.  So she will not take that secret to her grave.

Of course, Ida B. Wells researched this many decades ago and proved that these allegations that Black men had touched or, indeed, attacked white women were completely erroneous.  They were simply a pretext, used to justify the lynching of Black men, women and children.

Go here for my blog post about Ida B. Wells.

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Black History: Rosewood

We have heard about the Black Wall Street.  Other Black communities were also destroyed by racist violence, including Rosewood, Florida.

Rosewood was attacked and destroyed by a racist mob.  Even the children  had to hide, or run for their lives when there was nowhere left to hide.   

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Patrick Vernon on the Importance of Black History Month

In this video, a panel including activist and campaigner Patrick Vernon discuss the importance and relevance of Black History Month/African Heritage Month.

If you have seen the documentary More than a Month, you know that this debate continues in the United States, where it was found that the way Black history was taught in schools focused on a few signicant figures.  People such as Harriet Tubman, Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks featured prominently, as so they should.  But Black history did not begin with slavery.

Although this approach to Black history is wholly inadequate, when there was no attempt made to recognise Black History Month, Black history was not acknowledged or taught at all.

Therefore, Black history is still very relevant, and although there is no need to confine it to one single month, Black History Month/African Heritage Month serves as a signpost towards greater knowledge and understanding, both here in Britain and in the United States.  . 

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Black History: Who Was Roots Really Based On?

Laurence Fishburne in Roots

Everyone remembers Kunte Kinte, the central character in Alex Haley's Roots.  Stolen from Gambia, he was taken in chains to the United States (land of the free) along with thousands, maybe millions, of other Black people.

But whose background really formed the story of Kunte Kinte's upbringing and culture?

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See also: Black History: How to Give the Gift of Knowledge.  

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Black History: How to Give the Gift of Knowledge

Len Garrison

Do you want to give the gift of knowledge to your child?  Do you want your child to be aware of Black history and heritage?

Did you know that the late, great Len Garrison, who created the Black Cultural Archives in London, did so with no training and no funding?

Want to find out how he did it and how to research your own history?  Read my interview with him. Go here for my book Black Success Stories.  Order your copy today!

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Six-Year-Old's Encounter with Gun Violence

Merkel Taylor, recovering from head wounds

If you read or follow my blogs, you know that I am committed to nonviolence and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

Go here for the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2018.

Markel Taylor, 6, was being driven to football practice by Marlow Parker when he was attacked.

This little boy was shot in the head, which has led to serious long-term issues for him and his brother. They are still living with the aftermath of this horrific incident and the trauma it caused.

Go here to read more.

This case is currently subject to legal proceedings, so not much information is available at this time.  But this is an example of what can happen when we resort to using violence. 

The Black Man Who Attends Klan Rallies

I am sure you have heard about Spike Lee's new film, BlacKkKlansman.

In this TED talk, Daryl Davis talks about forming a friendship with a Klan leader.  He didn't do it because it was his job. Unlike Ron Stallworth, the author of BlacK Klansman: A Memoir and subject of Spike Lee's film, Daryl Davis was not an undercover police officer.  

Davis was fascinated with finding out how, and why, people hate others whom they don't even know.  So he approached the Klan. 

This TED talk shows that true friendship can form between people who come from conflicting ideologies, even the white supremacist ideology of the Klan. 

Daryl Davis has proven that, although we stronngly disagree, we can have mutual respect for one another.  And we can connect with, and form friendships with, anyone. 

See also:  Spike Lee Wants Us to Respect Our White Allies.  

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Book Marketing Genius: Sell More Books

I did this interview on Black Folks Hot Spots a couple of years ago and basically forgot about it.  In this interview, I mentioned my forthcoming ebook,Sell More Books.  I was waiting till I pubished the ebook before I shared this video.

Well, my ebook is out.  It's called Book Marketing Genius and, at the moment, it's still free.  It's still a work in progress, and your feedback is vital to completing the book.  You can download it here.  

Book Marketing Genius is a workbook which outlines a practical program to help you market your books.  It can help you to produce your books as well.  The marketing process begins BEFORE you finish your book. 

Do you want to 

• help more people?  
• reach more readers?  
• grow your audience?  
• increase your sales?  

Do you want to sell more books?

If the answer to these questions is "Yes", then please download Book Marketing Genius now. 

Plus go here to join my group, Book Marketing and Financing, where I will continue to add more resources. 

Remember, Book Marketing Genius is a PRACTICAL workbook.  You can't just read it, you have to DO what it says.  And I really want your feedback, so please let me know your results.  

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Spike Lee Wants Us to Respect Our White Allies

I am so glad Spike Lee has said this.  And, of course, he is right.  There have always been white people who were committed to justice.  And there have always been white people who risked, and sometimes lost, their lives due to their commitment to justice. 

During slavery, the people who owned the safe houses in the Underground Railroad were often white. 

Having said that, a lot of the violence that's going on now is no different from what happened during slavery. 

During apartheid in South Africa, some white people were imprisoned and risked losing their lives for challenging the apartheid regime.  Many others protested against apartheid internationally. 

And in Jim Crow America, white people risked their lives on the Freedom Rides.  

So let's not forget our history.  

And always remember, WHITE PEOPLE ARE NOT OUR ENEMIES.  I'm sure you know this already.  

The enemy is group mentality.  

Racism, racial discrimination, racist violence, racial profiling, bigotry - these are all different ways of saying "group mentality".  And it's not just about race.  Everybody has some group mentality. 

White people often come with group mentality, and when they do, they are our enemies.  Group mentality is vicious. 

Go here to read what Spike has to say. 

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Black Girl, 11, Tasered by Police

Girl of 11 Tasered by Police

A girl of 11 was tasered by an off-duty police officer in Cincinnati, OH.  

Go here to read more.  

I've said it before and I'll say it again - we need to change this situation.  And we can.  So tired of reading and hearing about these stories.  Tired of having my heart broken.  I am sure you are, too.  

Here's another one:  

Florida Cop Handcuffs 11-Year-Old Boy.   

How is this any different to what they were doing to us in slavery?  

We MUST change this situation.  And we can!  

And let's remember that this is an INTERNATIONAL problem.  Go here to read my blog about the Death of Kevin Clarke. 

We need to work together to sort out this problem.  And we can!  

My work focuses on solutions,  Let's talk about solutions.  Go here for 8 Books about Nonviolent Communication (NVC).  

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Black Entrepreneurs: Are You Ready to Change the World?

I really like this video because my work is all about changing lives.  That is how we can change the world. 

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This Upsets a Lot of People

I have had this argument with a lot of people, online and offline, over the years.

I met this guy at the park the other day. He is an active church member and works with young people.

He was insisting that we “have to” beat our children. In Africa, we beat our children – and "it works".

I confess I did not use my NVC skills during this encounter. I did not try to connect with his feelings and needs. I get very reactive when I see parents behaving in ways I don't like, and I particularly react, when people tell me we “have to” beat our children.

People also think it is part of our culture, but it's not. This is behavour that was learned and reinforced during slavery. Violent parenting, ruling by fear and intimidation, is NOT part of our culture. It is part of white culture. White people don't want us to know this. They don't want us to know and understand that we can have relationships, including parent/child relationships, based on trust, mutual understandin,g care and respecct.

“We have to” is a form of jackal speech, which Marshall Rosenberg terms “the language of no choice”. He points out that the Nazis used this kind of language to justify their actions.

For more about jackal speech, see “Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication”.

Also, check out my book, Success Strategies for Black People. 

Nonviolent Communication also works.   

Just because I have knowledge about NVC and I understand how it works, doesn't mean I always use it. I fall down. I make mistakes. It's called learning.

Jackals are very useful, as they point us to our unmet needs. I was experiencing a lot of unmet needs in this argument. Needs for kindness, care, respect and, most importantly, listening. A lot of parents tell me they are having problems with their children. “She's angry, she's slamming doors”, etc. But when I ask what unmet needs the child is experiencing, they tell me, “she doesn't have any”.

If your child is angry or upset, he or she is experiencing unmet needs. And you need to LISTEN to the child to understand what unmet needs he or she is experiencing.

We need to LISTEN to children, not beat them.

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